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I’m sure I’m not the first person to think in these terms, or the thousandth, but -
- there’s something to the idea of an anxious zeitgeist versus a secure zeitgeist, right?
Which is not the same as “things being bad” versus “things being good.” Things can be quite bad in a way that doesn’t require, or reward, a lot of worrying about the situation becoming worse for you or your people. Things can be overall really excellent but also scarily volatile on the micro-scale.
I would really prefer to live in a world of kooks and cults than in a world that engenders a lot of Pride and Prejudice shit.
Okay I thought I had you, until that last sentence. I don’t get how sz and az map to those two things. like az to p&p seems obvious but…?
Culty weirdness is often thought to be a dangerous failure mode of people spinning their wheels because they’re secure enough to survive but can’t really advance (or don’t have enough reason to want to advance).
Since almost everything I treasure in life falls under the umbrella heading of “culty weirdness,” I am not especially scared of this tradeoff. But I am not blind to it.
Are you thinking of P&P as an anxious one? Because while there is an element of stability in that world, everyone is *extremely* worried about their place in it.
…yes. That’s the point. P&P is about a world where it’s extremely hard for most people to construct personal commitments to any ideas other than “I should be successful and not ruined.”
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Pastor Paula White (2nd L) and other faith leaders pray behind US President Donald Trump during a National Day of Prayer event in the Rose Garden of the White House in Washington, DC, on May 1, 2025. © Jim Watson, AFPAs reported by France 24:
Thousands of people gathered Sunday in downtown Washington for a mass prayer festival featuring speeches by top Trump administration officials – an event critics see as an overt display of Christian nationalism undermining the separation of church and state...The gathering was organized by the White House as part of a program of celebrations for America's 250th anniversary and, in a video message inviting Americans to attend, Hegseth said it was an opportunity to "rededicate this republic to God and country."Muscular Christian nationalism has enjoyed a prominent platform since Trump's return to power, and evangelicals form a core element of the president's support base...Attendee Sarah Tyson, holding a "Jesus Saves" sign, said she believes Trump was chosen by God to lead the nation through a new spiritual revival.
Addendum: Just to clarify one point, citing Heather Cox Richardson:
But the United States of America was not founded as a Christian nation. The Founders were quite clear about that. In the 1796 Treaty of Tripoli, ratified unanimously by the Senate just a decade after the Constitution went into effect, U.S. leaders said “the government of the United States of America is not in any sense founded on the Christian Religion” and has “no character of enmity against the laws, religion or tranquility of” Muslims. They went on to say that “no pretext arising from religious opinions shall ever produce an interruption of the harmony existing between” the U.S. and Tripoli.Thomas Jefferson, the key author of the Declaration of Independence, and James Madison of Virginia, the key thinker behind the Constitution, both wrote explicitly about the importance of keeping the government separate from religion. Jefferson wrote that “religion is a matter which lies solely between Man & his God, that he owes account to none other for his faith or his worship.” “[T]he legitimate powers of government reach actions only,” he wrote, “[and] not [religious] opinions.”
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Do you ever find yourself lying in bed wide awake at 3 a.m., tossing and turning, unable to get back to sleep?
Tens of millions of adults experience insomnia, which can manifest in a variety of ways. But middle-of-the-night awakenings — where you wake up and have difficulty falling asleep again — are the most common symptoms of insomnia. Studies have found that as many as 1 in 5 adults in the United States and Europe experience this form of insomnia.
These dreaded awakenings afflict people of all demographics. Studies suggest that middle-of-the-night insomnia is especially prevalent among women, and that it becomes more common as people age, affecting about 1 in 4 people 65 years and older. But it occurs among everyone from teenagers to 90-year-olds, said Michael Breus, a sleep doctor and clinical psychologist who wrote the book “Sleep Drink Breathe.”
“It’s the number one thing I get asked about, and it has been for the last 20 years,” he added.
I know this form of insomnia all too well. Most nights, I have no trouble falling asleep. I yawn, close my eyes, get comfortable and within 15 minutes or so I’m fast asleep. The hours pass by. And then, like clockwork, I open my eyes, look at my watch and see that it’s 3 a.m. I close my eyes. I roll over and patiently wait for my brain to fall asleep again.
But far too often, I have ended up lying awake as my mind jumps from one anxious thought to another. It can take an hour or two to fall back to sleep. There have been nights when I couldn’t get back to sleep at all, and I ended up going about the next day feeling exhausted and sleep deprived.
The 4-7-8 breathing method
I have tried many things to conquer my 3 a.m. awakenings. I’ve counted sheep, distracted my busy mind with psychological tricks and tried reading boring books or listening to soothing meditation podcasts. But nothing worked until I tried a special breathing exercise recommended by Breus, the sleep expert.
The technique, called the 4-7-8 breathing method, is deceptively simple. First, you inhale through your nose for four seconds. Then you hold your breath for seven seconds. Finally, you exhale through your mouth for eight seconds and repeat the steps as many times as needed.
The first time I tried it, I honestly expected it to fail. I was lying in bed wide awake at 3 a.m., and figured why not try it? As I did the breathing exercise, I didn’t feel myself getting sleepy, but I did feel calmer. Eventually, I opened my eyes and saw that it was 6:30 a.m. The sleep-tracking function on my Apple watch indicated that I had been asleep for several hours.
I’ve now been using this breathing exercise on an almost nightly basis for over a month, and it works like a charm. When I do wake up at 3 a.m., I no longer get anxious because I know that I can get myself back to sleep without much difficulty.
Why we all wake up in the middle of the night
It turns out that there’s nothing unusual about waking up at 3 a.m.
“Every person on earth wakes up between 1 and 3 o’clock in the morning,” Breus said. “For most people, it doesn’t bother them. They burp, they fart, they roll over, and they just go back to sleep.”
This is because of our biology. Our body temperatures follow a daily circadian rhythm, rising throughout the day and then falling at night. For most people, body temperature peaks and then begins to decline around 10 p.m. This shift in temperature is a signal to your brain to release the hormone melatonin, which tells your body that it’s time to sleep, Breus said.
Your body temperature continues falling gradually throughout the night and begins to rise again between 1 and 3 a.m. During this time, your body moves into a lighter stage of sleep, causing us to wake up. But while most people fall back to sleep without even realizing it, about 10 or 15 percent of people do not, Breus said.
Instead, they look at the time, their minds begin to wander, and they get anxious. They may even pick up their phones and start scrolling social media or get out of bed and use the bathroom.
All of this can cause your heart rate to rise and activate your sympathetic nervous system, which controls your fight-or-flight response.
To get back to sleep, you need to activate your parasympathetic nervous system — the “rest-and-digest system” — which relaxes your muscles and slows your heart rate, Breus said.
This is where the 4-7-8 breathing exercise helps. Based on an ancient yogic technique called pranayama, it was popularized by Andrew Weil, a doctor and author who founded an integrative medicine center at the University of Arizona.
Studies suggest that the 4-7-8 technique and other breathing exercises facilitate sleep because they slow your heart rate, lower your blood pressure and reduce anxiety. A study published in the journal Frontiers in Sleep last year reviewed six trials and found that breathing exercises improved sleep quality in people with insomnia and other sleep difficulties.
“There’s been generally good evidence from randomized controlled trials showing that breathwork helps with insomnia,” said Melissa Young, a clinical assistant professor at the Cleveland Clinic and a staff physician at the clinic’s Center for Functional Medicine who was not involved in the study. “The 4-7-8 breath technique is both personally and professionally one of my favorites.”
What to do at 3 a.m.
If you find yourself wide awake in the middle of the night, don’t panic. You need to keep your heart rate low to fall asleep again. “Don’t look at the clock, and don’t elevate your heart rate unless you need to,” Breus said. Here’s what to do:
- Don’t look at your smartphone. The blue light it emits can trick your brain into thinking that it’s time to get up and start your day. If you absolutely have to keep your phone in your bedroom, then at the very least don’t keep it near your bed. “I plug my phone in across the room,” Breus said. You should also avoid looking at your smartphone in the hour or so before you first get into bed, according to Young at the Cleveland Clinic. That will help ensure a better night of sleep. “The blue light that your phone emits suppresses your melatonin production,” she said.
- You might be tempted to get out of bed and go to the bathroom. But try not to, as this will raise your heart rate, making it harder to get back to sleep, Breus said. “In most cases, people don’t really need to go to the bathroom,” he added. “About 70 percent of people are side sleepers, and that puts pressure on your bladder, which makes you think you have to pee.” Instead, Breus said, try rolling onto your back and counting to 30. If after 30 seconds you find that you really do need to use the bathroom, then by all means do it. But if you don’t, then it’s best to stay in bed.
- As you’re lying there, start doing the 4-7-8 breathing exercise. Try not to breathe in or out too forcefully. Instead, breathe in and out gently. Breus recommends doing 20 rounds of 4-7-8 breathing. You can keep count by lightly balling your hand into a fist and sticking out a finger after each round.
- Another thing you can do at the same time as the 4-7-8 breathing exercise is progressive muscle relaxation. Tense a part of your body for five seconds — like your calves, feet, arms or shoulders — and then release the tension and move on to another body part. This reduces stress and anxiety, which can help alleviate insomnia, Breus said.
- Something else that helps with insomnia is cognitive shuffling. This mental exercise helps you generate random thought patterns to distract you from anxious thoughts that interfere with sleep. You can learn more about it by reading our recent story on cognitive shuffling.
If you try these things and find that you still aren’t able to fall asleep, don’t worry. One night of bad sleep isn’t going to ruin your life. And Breus points out that you can still benefit from what’s known as non-sleep deep rest — the act of quietly lying in bed at night. It’s not the same as sleep, but it can still rejuvenate you, he added.
Occasional bouts of insomnia are normal. But if you find that you’re consistently having difficulty falling asleep or staying asleep — and that nothing seems to help — consider seeing a doctor or sleep specialist. You could have an underlying problem or medical condition, such as obstructive sleep apnea.
Do you have a question about healthy eating? Email EatingLab@washpost.com and we may answer your question in a future column.
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The bangs and booms will echo longer and louder into the night at Washington’s official Fourth of July celebration this year if event planners can achieve their goal of presenting the world’s largest ever fireworks display.
Freedom 250, a public-private partnership launched by the White House in December, says the fireworks on the National Mall will “shatter” world records, according to a statement provided to Axios, which first reported the news.
A typical Fourth of July fireworks show on the Mall lasts about 17 to 20 minutes and the number of fireworks set off in recent years has ranged from approximately 10,000 to 20,000 shells. But that’s just a handful of sparklers compared to the world record set in Manila in 2016 when organizers launched about 809,000 fireworks.
That’s the record organizers for the upcoming celebration hope to break.
(Dog owners take heed. The Manila show lasted a little over an hour.)
This year’s “breathtaking fireworks” will “stand as the most spectacular firework display the world has ever seen,” Freedom 250 spokesperson Rachel Reisner said in the group’s statement.
Freedom 250 did not immediately respond to an email from The Washington Post seeking confirmation that it planned to exceed the 809,000 fireworks record, how long the show would last or how much it would cost.
Jodi Dague, marketing director for Pyrotecnico, the Pennsylvania-based company presenting the fireworks, confirmed in an email that the show would be a “blowout for sure” but did not answer additional questions about the scope and cost of the production
The National Park Service directed requests for comment to Freedom 250. NPS did not say whether the organization had submitted a permit request for the event.
In February, the Interior Department first hinted at the size of this year’s display.
“This Independence Day will be one for the history books,” the agency posted on social media. “As America celebrates 250 years of freedom, fireworks over the National Mall are expected to be nearly 20 times larger than a typical year, marking an unforgettable celebration in the heart of the Nation’s Capital.”
A spokesperson for Lindsey Appiah, D.C.’s deputy mayor for public safety and justice, said all questions about fireworks should be directed to event organizers. The person did not respond to questions about whether the District was aware of the expanded fireworks plan or who would be paying for it.
Appiah announced Wednesday that this year’s Fourth of July celebration in the District had been designated a National Special Security Event, the nation’s highest security designation. The decision, made by the Department of Homeland Security, means Washington will be flooded with law enforcement personnel and equipment around the series of events planned by the Trump administration and affiliated groups to mark America’s 250th birthday.
The NSSE designation is typically given to events deemed potential targets for terrorism or other criminal activity, such as the State of the Union address, presidential inaugurations or visits by world leaders.
With the designation, the Secret Service will be in charge of coordinating all security.
“The decision is based, in part, on the event’s significance, size and attendees,” a Secret Service spokesperson said in an email. “Designating an event an NSSE allows for considerable resources from the federal government, as well as vital assistance from state and local partners, to be used to force multiply all available security resources.”
40x the usual amount of fireworks. This is going to SUCK.
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